Q&A With Domina Doll

Remember the Seinfeld episode where they talk about Kramer falling ass backwards into money? Well, I haven’t (sadly), but I did fall ass backwards into meeting a very cool person.

Nut Shell: I signed up to do these sex toy reviews. Wisely, they assigned a person to watch over me. A Giles to my Buffy. (Sorry for the pop culture ref). That person was named Domina Doll and from the get-go she was nice and patient and funny. And patient. And very, very patient in case I didn’t say. A true blessing when you are learning something new and fucking it up every five seconds.

One day I asked (all atwitter) if I could Q&A her for my blog. Sure, says Domina. That would be fine.

Somewhere in this, it finally occurs to me to follow a link and--tada! Domina is not just a simple sex toy review co-pilot who can teach you all about links, she is a smut monger extraordinaire!

Enough of that. Let’s talk to Domina. My sex toy co-pilot, and let's face it, girl crush.

Let’s start with the sex toys. That’s how I broached the topic of this interview with you. I wanted to know if you ‘reported’ to an actual shop for sex toy duty. Turns out you work for some online places and an actual brick and mortar store. So, spill. Tell us how, when, and what everyone wants to know---why.

Hmmm… Well, I started working for a Brick and Mortar in Jan 08 as a smut girl sales slut, peddling sex toys to consumers. It was a very interesting job and I enjoyed helping people find sex toys that suited their needs. Turns out many people are not as savvy about sex toys as myself and I even taught my boss a few things. I became the go-to grrl when peeps needed sex toy info and had safety concerns. Although, I have not tried every sex toy on the planet (that would be impossible)—and nor would I want to: Jelly-Yuck!

I have been reviewing sex toys for many years. Learning as much as I can about human sexuality and sexual response in women and men. I was soon promoted to Marketing Guru for this store because I have a lot of marketing know-how via the internet and in print--running promotions and creative ideas. This took me out of the Brick & Mortar to my home office where I commute via email and phone calls weekly. I go in and visit about once a month for meetings. Right now I’m working on several projects for them including a Sex Manual and going to the EverythingtodowithSex Show as their spokesgrrl this month to do demos and give talks on sex.

Almost simultaneously, I started doing sex toy reviews for Sextoy.com. One thing led to another and they got me working on doing copy writing for the site, improving category pages, etc. I guess I mentioned how I thought a blogger review program would be good for promoting Sextoy.com-- the Sextoy.com Reviewer program was born. [smut girl waves to audience]. I now handle that, work on the Affiliate program, and work with manufacturers, getting their products out to reviewers. This has been a tremendous learning experience for me and I am grateful to be involved in such a cool shop with great people behind it including SexToy Dave, the owner.

I finally figured out who you were when you sent me some info about the Pleasurists. Tell me more about what you do with them.

Besides being a regular contributor, Scarlet Lotus and I came up with an idea to have a Best Sex Toy Reviewers List for 2008. Pleasurists is like the Sugasm of sex toy reviews and since she knew so many peeps and so did I, we thought it would be a fun idea.

And what about this Fetish Ball? Sounds fascinating and well, to be blunt, a wet dream for me. How does this whole Ball thing work?

Halifax, NS (where I live) has an annual Fetish Ball each fall. It is organized by various peeps and groups within the BDSM/Fetish/Sex community especially Don Murchy, a fella who is like an icon in the community and someone who has been my BDSM mentor and friend.

I was enlisted as the official photographer for the Fetish Ball the last two years. I also helped organize the stage shows including a fetish fashion show with a bunch of models I know. The outfits were from the Brick & Mortar store previously mentioned. It was a fun event, but my feet were killing me afterwards trying to run around in 6” stilettos snapping candids!

And it says in your bio that you are a Dom/Sadist. As a woman with a sexual submissive streak you could pilot a 747 down, I find that fascinating. ((And hot)). Could you share some more of that aspect of Domina Doll?

I’ve been in the “scene” for about 7 years I guess. I’ve had several play partners; some of them were serious for a while. I see myself as a mentor and teacher. I enjoy teaching others how to explore that aspect of themselves. I’ve done lots of naughty role-playing including play rape fantasies, Teacher/student, medical fetish, interrogation scenes and many more. I’m fairly accomplished at bondage, pain play, sensual/sensation play, humiliation and enjoy creating fun/interesting scenes and spaces to explore in.

Yeah. Um…about that medical fetish mention. Any chance of me getting one of those medical exam tables I saw on Sextoy.com any time soon? You know. For a review.

Hehe! Not likely. I'd lend you mind but its a bit heavy. But there is a whole whack of cool medical fetish stuff there that is much more affordable ;)

Now on to the photos. I love them. Your site Fatale Femmes is gorgeous. Your work grabs the eye in a very visceral way. When did you start your photography? Any favorite subjects?

I’ve been taking photos for about 15+ years. About 10 years ago I went to school and learned photography & film making at two different universities simultaneously, getting over 60 credits in my final year and winning a few awards including the Governor General’s Award for the highest GPA<---- Bragging rights! Now I do photography part-time as a pro.

Most of the shoots I do that I enjoy best, however, are unpaid. I like the Black and White aesthetic including Film Noir and retro/vintage styled shoots. I enjoy building sets and creating a story with a shoot. I also love horror imagery and incorporate that quite a bit in my photography. Horror and sex ;) I would like to start doing more explicit imagery as well, which I plan to begin this year. I have several projects I’m working on whenever I can find the time.

Music! Favorite music to dance to? Work to? Fuck to?

Dance to: Dead Can Dance, Lorenna
Work to: Clockwork Orange Soundtrack as well as anything played on CBC Radio 2 Drive program with Rich Terfry and the late night program with Laurie Brown the Signal.
Fuck to: Bad Company & Lynard Skynard

It’s your last supper. What are you eating?

Pussy…Just kidding. Pussy + Lobster, champagne, oysters, Brie and crackers, rich chocolate, grapes, and spinach. I know. Spinach doesn't go with the rest. But, neither does pussy.

Okay, folks. Please comment! Don’t be shy. Questions are welcome. We have a copy of BWE 09 up for grabs and some lovely purple sex toys donated by Domina and Sextoy.com. I'll leave this up all weekend and be back Monday to announce our two winners. Yay!
XOXO
Sommer


Domina Doll is an omnisexual sadomasochist, sex-radical feminist and sex writer who pens porn, books, and sex toy reviews. Her articles on human sexuality can be found on several blogs and magazines including Whiplash!, S.M.U.T, Lover & Lucrezia Magazines, and Vibrator.com as well as her own blog Pop My Cherry . She comes from a long line of schizophrenics, nymphomaniacs and Indian Chiefs, with a few odd skeletons in her closet to boot. She would like to be a pornographer when she grows up. Until then, she’ll just keep taking dirty pictures



*self portrait of artist